Hello API Job Corps Centers:
I love this saying, “We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.” All of us at one time or another have faced loss and disappointment. For us to continue on our journey to success, and not give up, there are a few things to consider:
Reflect on how you are responding: In dealing with the need to change course or when feeling a loss, some people shut down, become bitter, angry and defensive. Others experience an open-heartedness and become more whole-hearted. What makes the difference? People that become open-hearted, appear to experience the interconnectedness of life. Instead of feeling isolated or alone, they appear to know that are part of something bigger, and that this change in course is only temporary.
Focus on the NOW: Jay Dixit,(www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200811/the-art-now-six-steps-living-in-the-moment#), reminds us that life unfolds in the present. Many of us tend to let the present slip away, wasting the precious seconds of our lives as we worry about the future and regret the past. Buddhist scholar B. Alan Wallace says, "We're living in a world that contributes in a major way to mental fragmentation, disintegration, distraction, decoherence. We're always doing something, and we allow little time to practice stillness and calm.” When we're at work, we think about being on vacation. When we are on vacation, we worry about work. The goal here, as Dixit says, is to strive to live in the present.
Keep your hopes and dream in sight: There are some proven steps that can help to do this. First, be sure to write down daily goals and check them off. Meeting small goals daily will keep your momentum going so your larger dreams come closer. Second, do not engage with negative people. Surround yourself with positive people who share your belief that things are always changing. Third, remember what John Lennon of the Beatles said, “Everything will be all right in the end and if it’s not, it’s not the end ." Fourth, reflect daily on where you have been and how much you have accomplished. Visualize, as great athletes do, your dreams coming true.
Maintain your positive perspective: Robert W. Wicks (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-resilient-life/201808/maintaining-healthy-perspective) says to lean back when you feel the negative behavior, attitude, or emotions of others seeking to being you down. You don’t want to be unfeeling, but you should detach from the negatively. Wicks states, “They may not intentionally mean to behave this way but if I drop a rock on your head on purpose or by mistake, you still get a bump. Learn to “move your head” by leaning back from the emotions of others.” Lean into those who exhibit positivity.
Adjust, adapt, and keep moving: Sometimes in sailing through life, we need to change course to avoid the storm, currents, or other things that get us off track. Changing course is not bad, it will still get us to our destination!
Please stay on course and ensure our students do!